With Halloween behind us and Thanksgiving just a few weeks away, the talk has turned from costumes and candy to being thankful (and pumpkin pie). And I’m so excited! It cannot come at a more perfect time. With the birth of our second child 4 months ago (where has the time gone?), life has been absolutely crazy. This season is just what I need for a reset.
I’ll be the first to admit that life with kids (and life in general!) can be busy and challenging. It’s easy to let their moods and attitudes affect me. On top of that, there’s the impossible to complete to-do list weighing on me. I mean, with a toddler around and the constant repetition and demands, how can it not? But I am in control of the dialogue going through my head. While at times I may be prone to think “This is so hard!” or “Today is terrible...” , that isn’t going to help me get through my day. I’m not able to control many situations, but I am able to control my thoughts and reactions to them.
Recently our oldest, Gaby, was sick with a fever. It was so easy to jump to the thoughts of “This sucks!” and “Now we can’t go to the playground or get together with friends.” But quickly I was able to see the positive. I became thankful for the chance to slow down and take a break. Because let’s face it, this mama was tired! And I don’t routinely get to snuggle very much with her, as she is usually bouncing off the walls and jumping through the apartment. So at the end of that day when I was reflecting on it, I was able to say I was thankful for snuggles with Gaby and just getting to sit and put my feet up for a bit.
I know not every situation is able to be redeemed in this way. Some things happen and they just suck. But overall, this works. By focusing on the good things in my life, my attitude as been better and I have been happier. This affects not only me, but also my family. I’m a better wife and mother. And my kids are happier too! While life presents many ups and downs, by being thankful, my attitude is more positive. And then things seem much more doable. If you’re looking for tips in getting started on this, check out this short article.
What are you thankful for today?