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Boy or Girl? When to find out baby's sex

Chantal Standafer

Snuggling with baby #1 right after she was born and we found out it's a girl! 

Snuggling with baby #1 right after she was born and we found out it's a girl! 

There are so many decisions to make while being pregnant. Some are more important than others. When it came to finding out the sex of our babies, we made a different decision for each of the pregnancies. 

The first time around we decided to wait until the baby was born to find out if it was a boy or a girl. It was pretty awesome: my doctor handed the baby to my husband, who announced that it was a girl, and then we used her name for the first time! Part of me just wanted that surprise at the end! And there was the practical side of me: we knew we wanted to have more than one child, and didn’t want to receive just blue or pink items for this first baby. But in the process, I did have to listen to a whole lot of “I can’t believe you’re not finding out! Do you want a boy or a girl? Etc.” Then again, while it can be a bit annoying, it’s definitely not the end of the world.

I think the hardest part for me was getting used to her name. We had chosen both a boy name and a girl name months before she was born. But because we didn't know if we were having a boy or girl, we hadn't used the names at all. It took me weeks until I truly felt like that name was really hers. 

With the second and third children we found out during the pregnancies. Part of me wanted to wait like we had the first time. But I didn't really care about it that much. After a little discussion, we decided to just go ahead and find out.

With our second child, we found out the sex via blood test around 12 weeks. I definitely had not thought about finding out this way! My doctor talked with us about it, and at the time it was very inexpensive for us to get the test. I had the blood draw, and then about a week or two later I received a call from the office with the results. So I found out we were having a boy while sitting in the car. And then I went inside and got to tell my husband the exciting news. 

Announcing baby #2 was a boy! 

Announcing baby #2 was a boy! 

The third time around we waited until the anatomy scan to do so. And because of travel plans, we had to wait until I was 20 weeks to schedule this appointment. I was able to arrange it at a time when my husband could go with me, and we also had the two older kids with us. Our four-year-old daughter was very excited to find out, while our two-year-old son wasn't nearly as into the experience. But it was fun to be all together when we found out that baby #3 is a girl! 

Big sister and big brother announcing baby #3 is a girl! 

Big sister and big brother announcing baby #3 is a girl! 

In the end though, we announced the news the same way. We first contacted our immediate family, then we posted on social media. No big surprise with a cake or balloons. I always love seeing the different, more elaborate ways people share their news. But this more simple way is what worked for us!

When did find out baby’s sex? How did you share the news with friends and family?